Your description of your parent’s marriage sounds a lot like my parent’s marriage, and I still hope to find a similar relationship for myself. That’s an issue I had with my ex-husband as well, we each thought our marriage would be more like our respective parent’s marriages, and those couldn’t be more different. My parents hug, kiss, say “I love you,” even after 32 years. My mother is strong-willed and practical, but she does look at my dad to lead. My ex’s parents are a lot more like your ex’s parents. It’s hard to reconcile such different examples of how marriage is supposed to work. I’m glad you found your match now!