It’s a complex issue, and women being scared is only one facet of the problem. I can’t speak for everyone, but I understand people who’ve been seriously hurt, and how that hurt makes them overly-cautious when it comes to dating and relationships. I personally haven’t been on hundreds of dates in the last year, but I see what you mean by people looking for perfection. I see it on both sides. It’s like you have exactly one shot with every person. You do one thing they disagree with and you’re out. There’s no working on the relationship, no being patient, no trying to understand and forgive each other. Everything has to be exactly perfect, otherwise the relationship is labelled as toxic and the person is sent packing. Again, I see it on both sides. Women doing it to men, and men doing it to women.