I used to think that too! Kids first, right? Seems logical. However, I heard some compelling arguments for ‘spouse first’, I reflected a lot on the subject, and now I have a different conclusion. You have to prioritize the needs of your children as they’re infants who can’t take care of themselves, then, as teenagers growing into adults, that’s fair. Your spouse and your relationship, however, should come first so that the two of you can always be a well-functioning unit to provide the support your children need. When children come first, you have wife disrespecting husband in front of them, you have spouse contradicting spouse, making rules lax and not giving the kids the sense of security they need to grow into well-functioning adults.
Thanks for taking the time to read my piece!