I’m sorry you feel that way, and that you didn’t find what you were looking for in my story. Even though I’m divorced myself, I’m afraid I don’t have anything specific for your situation.
I’m leaving here two stories that might come little closer to helping you, but I’m not sure they’re what you’re looking for either.
When Love Alone Is Not Enough
Letting go of the idea that “if he really loved me, he wouldn’t have hurt me.”
If You Want a Good Relationship, Be Ready to Walk Away
And that’s not the same as threatening to leave.
Or you can check Recovering After a Divorce, they have a lot of stories on, well, divorce: