Getting your heart broken can send you into a spiral of despair.
It can lead you to believe you can’t — or will never be — loved. That you’re not worthy, must have done something wrong, or will never be good enough.
Or it can send you towards the other end of the spectrum: blaming the person who rejected you and, if you hang around the echo chamber of internet forums and Youtube rabbit holes long enough, turning every individual of the opposite sex into the enemy.
We live in a time where outrage is extremely lucrative. Pitting people of…
When it comes to heterosexual relationships today, there seems to be a misalignment between the sexes.
As the US marriage rate stagnates at around 50%, the number of single adults living by themselves only increases. Contrary to popular belief, young adults are not favoring cohabitation over marriage, they are remaining single instead.
The reasons why it’s so hard for men and women to get (and stay) together today are varied and complex, but our feelings-centered culture and the way we discuss relationships, especially online, definitely play an important part in the outcome. …
Wishing you had someone to share your life with doesn’t automatically make your singlehood miserable.
You can want a partner and a relationship with all your heart and not let it stop you from building a happy, fulfilling life all on your own.
But if you rationalize your singlehood instead of taking responsibility for it, you’re bound to have a hard time finding someone.
Finding love depends on luck, but chances are there are at least a few things you could be doing to improve your chances.
Blaming dating apps, or the opposite sex, or social media, or whatever it…
You’ve been taught it can move mountains.
Love is the driving force behind grand gestures and desperate all-or-nothing attempts, or so you’ve been told.
When you’re a child, love is the driving force behind the dragon-slaying Prince saving the once-lost Princess. Once you grow up, love becomes that ineffable feeling that makes the suave, stubborn bachelor race through a packed airport terminal to find the shy, awkward girl he’s ignored for the whole movie.
He can’t live without her, that’s how strongly he feels for her, and vice-versa.
You grow up cultivating an image of love as the…
After a breakup, emotions run high.
At first, you might be stunned, and it’s only after reality sinks in that other emotions are allowed to surface.
There might be anger and even relief. There might be a sense of injustice or longing for the good times you shared together.
And a feeling deep inside your gut that calls out the need for an explanation, for answers, for closure.
The aftermath of each breakup is very particular, and so it’s the way you handle it. …
I’ve suffered from anxiety in relationships long before I knew those feelings had a name: anxious attachment style.
I’ve been making progress towards developing a secure attachment style, but there was a time when feelings of uncertainty, insecurity, and anxiety dominated my relationships.
In practice, those feelings manifested in constantly checking my phone, social media stalking, and finding excuses to text someone just to get a response. There was also intense daydreaming and difficulty concentrating while at work or studying, not to mention the actual physical discomfort caused by something as simple as waiting for a text.
Back in those…
How to have a good marriage?
There’s no shortage of advice out there, but most of the best relationship advice can be boiled down to the rules you’ve learned in kindergarten.
Seriously, it is that simple. Deep down, the rules for a good marriage aren’t that much different than the rules for good social behavior we all learn at 3 years old.
These two daughters toasting (more like roasting) their mom on her third wedding make the point. The video is worth watching in full, it’s funny and heartwarming.
By the end of the toast, the sisters list a series…
So your friend is getting a divorce.
They come to you with the news, a bit (or extremely) shell-shocked themselves and looking for sympathy and possibly a shoulder to cry on.
All you want to do is help, but the line between being helpful and being tactless is a blurry one — especially if you’ve never been through the same thing yourself and don’t have the advantage of experience.
You might not know what to say, but here are a few things you should avoid saying, just to be safe:
And if they do regret it, what good…
Where do you find romance these days?
Do you find it in roses delivered to your door for no reason? Do you find it in a surprise candlelit dinner in the middle of the week?
Do you find it in a public declaration of love, in an elaborate proposal in the middle of a baseball game, in a movie-like airport chase that’s completely unrealistic these days because, well, for starters there’s TSA…
Real-life romance often isn’t where decades of pop culture and romcoms have taught you to look.
Real-life romance is in the choices you make, and in the small…